Arnie was right – I’ll Be Back!!
And I am. Back that is. It’s been well over a year since I last posted a blog entry.
So why the long absence? The short answer is because my life turned upside down 12 months ago and I found myself separated from my wife, and now I’m in the midst of an acrimonious divorce. It is a horrible place to be and I wouldn’t wish it on my own worst enemy. It has had a massive impact on my life and caused me to lose interest in all the things that used to interest and occupy me. For instance, and this is only one example, I used to write code every day although I’m not a full-time software developer; following the separation I went for 6 months without writing a single line of code and technology and everything else associated with it lost all appeal for me.
Some people wonder why bloggers post all kinds of personal stuff out on the web for anyone to read, and that thought may occur to you as you read this. I have one simple reason for mentioning it; to offer some simple advice and hopefully prevent you being where I am now. If your relationship is faltering recognise that most problems can be sorted out by rational adults talking, and listening, to each other’s issues, needs and desires and that in almost every case there are issues on both sides that need addressed. Don’t underestimate the emotional effect that separation and divorce have on you, your spouse and your children. The hurt and turmoil goes way beyond all the things you might initially think of and is best avoided if at all possible. So if you do find yourself in this position – please, just keep talking to each other, go seek the help and advice of relationship guidance counsellors who can help you understand each other better and, for the sake of both of you and your children, do everything you can to avoid a divorce.
So why have I returned to blogging now? Partly because life is starting to settle down a little and assume a new sort of pattern, with the things that used to interest me starting to interest me once more. I started coding again and have thrown myself headlong into Sharepoint and Graffiti development and have experienced new things that are worth blogging about.
But mainly I’ve started blogging again out of guilt! I was enthusing about viral marketing to some of my colleagues the other day, particularly about the impact that blogging can have, and encouraging them to blog. One of my colleagues thought that suggestion a little rich given that I haven’t posted anything to my blog for over a year [shameful blushing]. So I decided it was time to get the blog going again and here we are. Watch this space!
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